Welcome Aussie Dave. The 3 c's have been so helpful to me --- I didn't cause it, I can't control it, I can't cure it. If you can attend some Al Anon meetings and educate yourself about alcoholism, it will help you figure out what comes next. The stickies at the top of this forum are also very good. For me, Sober Recovery has been the biggest help. My heart goes out to you. Focus on YOU. What is best for you? What will make you happy? Where do you want your life to be in 5 years? What do you want your life to look like?