Originally Posted by
KelleyF 
Don't give up hope; just be practical dealing with the here and now.
This is an important point.... many of us desperately want to cling to the vision of what he USED TO BE or what HE COULD BE if only.... This is dangerous thinking. Dangerous because it's an illusion. It's a dream of what could be, or a memory of what once was. This is the trap we fall into and what causes misery for many of us. It is SO important to stay rooted in the reality of WHAT IS. Acceptance of your reality (and his) is the key to the chains that bind you in confusion. If you take away all the promises and the flowery words, what are the actions you see? What has he DONE (not said) to prove that he is ready kick these drugs and to be a good father and husband?
These two articles have been very helpful to me, personally:
Addiction, Lies and Relationships I am Quitting Drugs and Alcohol For Good this Time – 10 Ways to Tell When an Addict or Alcoholic is Full of Crap