I'm so sorry Yez, this is a terrible path for you and your children to have to go down. It's my son who's the addict, I've done anything and everything I thought would help for 15 years - anything that might make a difference for him. Many thousands of dollars have been spent, promises made, lies believed - and tonight, 15 years later, he is sitting in jail for stealing money to buy drugs. Your husband will clean up only when he's ready to - regardless of what you do or don't do. Please take care of yourself and your children. Prayers for you.