Pegtails, go to meetings, take care of yourself, perhaps your power of example will help him along but you can't count on it. you need to take extra TLC with your recovery or you'll find yourself right out there having a drink with him and be back at square one. you are the only one that you can help, no that, accept that, nothing in this world can get an alcoholic sober if he/she does not desire it. you know that yourself if you are newly sober. get help and support thru your 12 step programs, pray for him, but most importantly, pray for you and your recovery...that's it, simple. but very hard....hugs m