Originally Posted by
madisonblake 
Also is there a good website you've read on setting boundaries for yourself? I'm sure I could google it but thought I would ask for your opinions first.
This is my favorite guideline
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ml#post2657076
It originated at MS State University, but it's no longer on their server. If you google "healthy collapsed rigid boundaries" you'll find several professionals use it, and find some additional commentary, too.
There are also several books about boundaries - there's a particular one referenced often here - but I can't remember the name.