Originally Posted by
Pigtails 
But the hard part is that he says he wants to change too so I have hope and I stay, but then he is back to denying it and then I want to leave. It's like this crazy game of yo-yo'ing back and forth.
I started to do better when I stopped believing what he "told" me and started to believe what I saw (his actions).
My qualifier would regularly after a binge drinking episode realize that he wanted to make some changes....then that incident would clear and he was right back to the starting gate.
It did put the responsibility right on me to decide what I could live with, but at least then I was working with something that was mine and not trying to manipulate/control another person.