Originally Posted by
anvilhead 
it's tough...sticking to our own STUFF and not wanting to go over and fuss with theirs. he will either "get with the program" or not....more will be revealed. at least ONE of you is sober right now...right? that's a 50% success rate!
True.
I think that in recovery my way of thinking is just changing about everything. The kind of person I want to be and the kind of person I want as a partner. So it's so hard because I have this history with him and in general we get along great but then I know there is this thing I don't want to deal with forever and the uncertainty of how to deal with the instances of him drinking etc.
I guess if I don't want to leave him then I just need to be patient and see what happens and just focus on myself.