Originally Posted by mayalewiston

Thanks again everyone. Today was really hard. I signed my lease, movers scheduled for Monday, etc... It is all set. I had a weak moment and called AH on my way to sign the papers, as I was honestly having second thought (WRONG, I know). When I first started speaking with him, he said that he thought it was a mistake, etc... then proceeded to tell me that "even if he fixed all of his issues, I would still have some things to work on - too emotional, controlling, etc." He keeps saying that I think I am perfect, etc. First of all, I do not think I am perfect but I do not know how to compare asking him about a banking issue to the continued lies, betrayal, and putting MY life in danger. How does one compare that to being frustrated that I said something to him about using the wrong debit card? He then went on to tell me that he was thinking today how he wished the two of us could just go up the coast to Malibu or Santa Barbara and relax for a few days BUT the happy couple he is picturing in his mind just isn't us.... and he doesn't think it ever will be. It makes me CRAZY that he doesn't understand why we aren't "that couple." He honestly thinks we should just cruise up the coast after he has spent the last week in a hotel (because I finally kicked him out after telling him no more lies - only to catch him days later) and calling a hooker? He also says that I never make him feel good about himself... As I stupidly tried to give a rational explanation to the above, he abruptly ended the call with "having to go" and thinking that yes, I was making the right decision in getting the apartment and that it would be "healthy for us to separate." Can anyone else relate to this nonsense???