(((Kelley))) - I can only tell you my experience. As far as the "I trust him to handle this"...I eventually realized that the only thing I trusted "him" to do was make me not trust him.
It took me my own addiction, coming here, before I realized I was a codie. Whether you are, or not, you will figure it out. I remember reading "codie no more" and all kinds of books and I just could not answer my own questions. We're talking more than 20 years, for me. I wore out TWO copies of codie no more, highlighters, you name it and I still didn't understand.
What I learned was that I figure things out when I'm meant to. Yes, I do believe in HP, I am NOT happy that I had to become an A to figure it all out, but then I don't regret it either...I wouldn't be where I am today if it weren't for figuring out things the hard way.
Hugs and prayers,
Amy