The last time my A relapsed, he spent all of our rent, bill and food money, he stole my tv, my computer, my camera (those last two mean I lost all of my daughters baby pictures, which he knew) emptied my bank account of the £500 I'd saved for our 18 month old's Christmas presents and clothes, sold stuff I'd bought as presents for people and disappeared for weeks. He even tried to take £5 out our daughters hand that her grandad had just given her. He pushed me round, pulled my hair, pinched abd scratched me and threatened me.. Also left me to deal with a 6'5" angry drug dealer.. I didn't hear from him for 2 weeks and didn't see him for closer to a month.
Last time I relapsed I didn't put anyone in danger, didn't steal from anyone and didn't choose to ignore my bills, rent and parenting responsibilities. I just worried about him for a while and made a couple too many phone calls. Then I went to a meeting.
Different ball park and not really worth comparing IMO.