Thanks everyone! I do think he is choosing to focus on the wrong thing for the time being. But that said......he is an A and comes from a family full of them. And I mean FULL!! Both parents, both sisters, almost every uncle and one cousin who already quit drinking. Even if he started out in AA he certainly needs Al Anon. I will remain (every so slightly) optimistic that this is a good start for him. After all, in the past he has refused any meetings.
He is attending an all mens group so I've never been....but from what others are telling me it is a great group. I pray he finds someone there who will support him.
After all, I can't do it since I am the reason he drinks in the first place! :oP