Well, I figured I had screwed up saying it, I usually do. I was trying to say it calmly, hoping he would stay calm. My intent is to pack up the kids and leave if the promises aren't kept. I have arranged a place to stay, if it comes to that. I understand that didn't come across, but there is no point trying to go back and fix it now.
Most of these promises were actually agreements we had come to while he was in rehab, during our family session of therapy. So me bringing it up at all was a mistake because he knew from the beginning what the action would be if he didn't follow through.
I'm trying to find time for Alanon but working full time, getting the kids to and from school, helping with homework, and taking care of the house leaves me with about an hour of free time a day, after the kids are in bed. Looks like I'm going to have to find a way to MAKE the time.