I know what you mean, my mom does these commando attacks on my psyche, but when you call her on it she blames the alcohol, as if that was a get out of jail free card for all her deplorable behavior. She then follow this up when you try and discuss the alcohol issue by saying that she does not have an alcohol problem. And my dad has let her get away with it for so long that it is pointless to try and call her out from the land of oz, so I just back further away.
Glad you got to spend some quality time with friends, hang in there, we will all get through this as long as we have each other.
Big hugs,
Bill