Aww, thank you, it is a huge thing isn't it! She's spent most of her life in fear of her mother, treading on eggshells, never daring to be naughty, to answer back or ever question her mothers bizarre and volatile personality, but as soon as she made the biggest decision of her life, to leave, within a couple of weeks she actually saw what she had been seeing all those years. After one of mums rare visits, the one where she saw her mum looking very sick with yellow skin and dangerously thin, she was horrified and asked for support in the form of al-anon, and said she wished she had the guts to confront her mum, but felt she couldn't do it face to face, which is understandable. So, tonight when mum started on about things, she seized the opportunity and went with it, charged and feisty, but not rude. She just wasn't having mums denial, and how she remained calm I don't know, but what I do know is that she's one hell of a kid, and is well on the way to her own recovery.
She deserves the life she has now. Our hope is that one day her mum will see that too and that she can have a decent relationship with her daughter, but we aren't holding our breath!