I guess I am different, because my ABF knows, if he doesn't straighten up, he will have nothing to do with our kids.
Threaten me with visitation, you will never get it. You live in your CAR, for God's sake.
I would rather do it all myself, knowing where my kids are at and who they are with and what is going on, than with someone I can't trust.
I have a son already who is 5 and I raised him on my own, with no help from his pos father, not emotionally, monetarily, nothing. He has never seen him, and that is the way I want it. It takes much more than sperm to be a father. Go ahead, hurt me all you want, but you will NEVER hurt my kids, or you will be dead.