Fourmaggie-
A wise therapist told me once that sometimes when the people pleaser changes those around us don't like it very much.
For me that was above and beyond my qualifier but extended to so many relationships in my life.
As I really start to heal my friendships are changing also. I too am under 50 and don't have a lot of people in the same age bracket in Al-anon. I am struggling to trust myself right now to choose to have people in my life that are healthy, because I have not always done that in the past.
The whole experience of recovery is healing, but this part is kind of disorienting....I am with you, and can relate.