I'm so sorry you are having to endure this. I've heard all that too. I got clear pretty quick and told him "comittment to recovery or you won't be with me" and he chose the latter. The verbal abuse didn't stop...he's now fired his attorney and sending threatening emails to me and my attorney. I now understand crazy town will not end...as long as he drinks. Even though I'm done, I'll still be the target of the abuse until the divorce is final. I take consolation in the fact that the divorce WILL be finished eventually..then the nightmare is gone from my life. We also don't have minor children, so I can be really, completely done with him.
Good riddance