Welcome to the SR family!
You have found a wonderful resource of support and information. Please stick around and make yourself at home.
I understand the frustration of living with an alcoholic loved one.
I also understand the feeling of waking up to a wet bed.
I want to share one of my favorite Sticky posts with you. Stickies are the permanent older posts located at the top of this forum page. There are about 14 rows of stickies that are marked with a little padlock symbol in the left column. That means they are preserved for reading, but prevent new comments from being added.
Here is the direct link to a sticky that helped me regain some sanity while living with an active alcoholic:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...l-problem.html