I always wanted to let my ExAB know that I knew when he was lying, being shady, and using. For some insane reason I thought that could control or cure the situation. Almost like saying "listen buddy I know your game and your BS so you might as well give it up for good now that your busted."
All that happened each time is he lied more, then yelled, then said horrible mean things, them cried, and when all of those didn't get the result he wanted he either when way below the belt with a mean remark or got so verbally and physically intimidating that I just broke down. There you go..the addict won!!!
So it's not worth it. It won't change a thing. It will just cause more drama lies games and distruction. Time for you to love yourself more than him.
BIG HUG