I suggest you relax, be the daddy and take care of those babies tonight. Your wife has been there all day and probably needs to get out. Yes, you were at work, but tonight it's time to open your tool box and deal with life. After you are with the babies for a bit and they get in bed....journal, call someone in the program (you have numbers, right?), call your sponsor, or get online and get to aa online chat room (
AAOnline.net Chat Meeting Room ) meeting is at 9:30 EST or one hour from this post, or go to
Addiction, Alcoholism - In The Rooms - Drug Addiction Treatment and see if there's a meeting or start a room for a meeting or chat, come here to the chat room, options, so many options today. No drama required.
Later tonight or tomorrow, have a meeting with your wife. Start with the Serenity Prayer, share, take turns to speak. It's time to start a new life with your wife. You may not have created a lot of problems, but even an absentee (drunk) hubby creates problems by omission.
If you don't have a sponsor or haven't started the steps, this is the solution. Meetings help with the fellowship, but the fellowship is on the phone or computer, too. We're at SR, too!
I wish you a peaceful night and prayers sent for the babies.
Hugs,