Hey FindingJoy as you said... "He's doing the steps and recovery HIS way and based on what I've read in SR that is a reciepe for disaster."
So true, I was with a "dry drunk" for months not realizing, he was doing it his way. At the time I wasn't looking for the information that I was blessed to come across now. You know my story and when reading some of your... sounds so familiar. The mean texts, manipulating bull$$$ really gets old. I mean I didn't tolerate any of this when I was in high school (WHAT AM I DOING)...
I feel you though, and loosing yourself can be really easy, when you were such a cheerleader for someone, that through it all doesn't even recognize ALL THAT YOU DID!!!
Big Hugs!
Q