Zoso: When I read the "Brain Chemistry of a Loved One", it really hit home and helped me understand myself a lot better, how I had become immune to fearful situations, etc, with my AS. However, along my journey, I happened to find a best friend. We were friends for about 2 years. I hadn't had a "best friend" in so many years, and it was so fun at first. But... (as I ask myself, am I a magnet for dysfunctional people?)... come to find out, she was BPD! When she was drinking, she was the most fun, witty, caring, life of the party. Problem was, she was always drinking. Alcohol was her DOC, but she hid it pretty well, functioned well. I was already dealing with chaos from my AS, and eventually, after about a year or so, chaos started with her. For me, I learned that there is nothing more frightening (to me) than a Borderline!!! Seems like they want to possess your very soul! (shudder) In hindsight, I see that the relationship was not a friendship at all, I was being manipulated yet again, but it was a learning experience and I'll be sure to recognize it (I hope) if I encounter another Borderline, so I can run for the hills!