I know that there is a lot of guilt and shame involved when we stop drinking because of the things we did. I worked hard to be patient and to understand that my family would take some time to see positive changes in me. I am not an AA person, but I did make amends in a way that worked for me, when the time felt right.
It sounds like marriage counselling would help the two of you as a couple. I agree AlAnon could help too. It may come to a point where you realize the idea of living with a drinker is not what you want. Best wishes as you work through this.
