Originally Posted by
Portofcall741 
Just a quick follow up question. Is it common for the addict to return from detox having it all figured out? The current point of contention is that she doesn't think I am open enough to seeing all the positive changes. My problem is, heard it all before, have seen it all before, and it has never been sustainable. So now I am the negative one again. Is this common behavior? It just doesn't make sense to me for the expectation to be Si forgive, forget and hop back in with both feet.
Figured what out exactly?
My intention is not to sound negative when I say this, but rather to put you on alert.
If an addict's lips are moving, they're lying.
Are you in Al Anon or Nar Anon? If you're not, I suggest you get in, allow her to focus on her recovery, and you focus on yours. Please. For your sake.
ZoSo