Amy, I appreciate you so much. Thanks for sharing your story. My ABF is also an ACOA who has never dealt with that and some other deep issues. I'm sure alcohol is just the most obvious of problems, it's not the only one.
I don't want this for the duration of my life. I wasted 10 yeara in a disappointing marriage (not alcohol related). I kept hoping this relationship, which started with such promise, could last. I wanted to think he would keep his oaths to get help. I wanted to think we could face our troubles together and strengthen our bond.
Instead, nothing is changing. The pretending, lies, arguments and tears persist.
Thanks for letting me share and for hearing me. It all makes me stronger!