Originally Posted by
babaluu 
should i go and see him and talk and make him understand that it is over?? i this somehow is what i feel to do ...feels right somehow and feells like i think i can do it. it must end.
Do you think your words will somehow *magically* convince him when he's clearly not ready to listen?
IMO, you're going to call him, try to have a conversation and end up bashing your head up against the wall of his denial/manipulation.
It's done. It's over. He knows it. Time to move on...and not necessarily into someone else's arms. Perhaps it's time to consider that if you got involved with someone as toxic as your ex, it's because you were looking to fill some kind of void...IMO that isn't something that gets fixed by "replacement therapy".