I think Evening Rose is probably correct, I was just trying to give them the benefit of the doubt and the ability for you to say, hey I made an effort, I reached out, so they cannot come back and say "why didn't you say something, we never knew". On the upside at least they are not hostile, after my upbringing I will take indifferent to hostile any day.
But as Mike says, if you love yourself, the rest of it just falls into place, I know the affirmations seem like something from the Stuart Smalley skts on SNL but they reall do work, I posted a whole set of them in late December if you need some.
Bill