I would never ever in my right mind threaten him or let him know but I know I will have to play the 'dumb fox'. That is, pretend that nothing has changed. I want to be the last person he would think of. He has a tendency to be extremely defensive and because he is breaking down fast, not that he knows it, he could get violent particularly when he is drunk. He attacked our mother with a cut throat razor when he was 16 and drunk. Our stepfather hit him over the head with a block of wood to stop him and it knocked him out cold.
We continued to 'obey' the olds, probably because we were afraid. Trauma bonding.
I am reluctant to let him into my home again, especially when I am alone, so I may need to meet him on neural territory. His emotional violence is out of control and he criticises everything about me. Sometimes iI feel so lousy after spending time with him that I feel suicidal. I hate him. Really ******* hate him. It's sad but realistically family of origin is overrated.
This makes me feel like a sociopath.