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Old 02-05-2012, 06:51 AM
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Should I report them all?

I know about a dozen people who live in a small town and grow tonnes of pot. One of them is my brother, who apart from drinking copious amounts of alcohol as often as he can, also is putting his kids in danger. He feeds dope seeds to his five year old daughter when he is mulling up or rolling. I tolerated the fact that these people smoke pot around their kids all the time, having grown up that way myself.

Now I think it is wrong. Lethally so. Even though he is my brother, he is a sociopath who is full of hatred for those less fortunate than him, including me. He hates the mentally ill, who he thinks are O2 thieves and should be put to death, along with people with disabilities of any description. Liabilities to the new world order, all of them.

Here is another thing. Since his divorce he has been making up for lost time in the sex department which is fine in itself except that his preferences are disturbing. Regardless of age, his sex partners have to be nubile and have bodies like teenagers. His ex was very homely and he lost interest in her after the kids were born. For the record he is 43. There are teens in the town who will soon reach the age of consent and he told me he is waiting. It sickens me to hear about his sexual exploits in explicit detail. One day we were at a beach and there were teenaged girls playing in bikinis. He said they were sexy.

He also said he accidentally downloaded kiddie porn. My intuition tells me this was no accident. He has also tried to set me up with some shady older men. One of them has a skewed opinion of pedophilia, like he can justify it.

I want to wipe this town out. The more pot that grows there, the bigger the town grows and it is ugly. These people,on the exterior, are successful in their fields and most of them are parentally subsidised in a very generous way.

Opinions, good people? Tips on how to protect myself? It is three months until harvest. What about Karma?
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He feeds dope seeds to his five year old daughter when he is mulling up or rolling.

I'd report him for that reason first, and the kiddie porn second.
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I'd report him for both of those reasons and call CPS, too. That child needs someone to look out for her. Yes, I'd absolutely report it.
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Old 02-05-2012, 02:30 PM
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Ajnat,
I'm sorry you are dealing with this in your life! This situation is horrible.

Children need adults to be their voice when they are in bad situatiuons. They are too young to be able to take care of themselves and therefore are stuck in bad situations like this one.

If you do nothing else but try and find away to help those children do that!! No child deserves to have to live in that environment! I would most certainly report them!
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Old 02-05-2012, 05:52 PM
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His five year old daughter will someday be one of those young nubile "sexy" girls he talks about.

Just a word of caution. Small town and big drug business usually means the local authorities are aware....and corrupt.
Especially if there is parental subsidy.

I would go to CPS. It can be anonymous if you choose.

I would also consider moving out of the area.....but that's just me FWIW.
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Old 02-05-2012, 07:42 PM
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Yes report!!! Be the children's voice! I'm in the same boat and I'm doing everything to get the child out! Children didn't make this choice, the adults did and the children shouldn't have to suffer for it.
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Hi ajnaT! I'm Australian also, and think I understand the scenario you're describing. I know here in Australia - and maybe everywhere, but I don't know - there are social groups like this that are so strong you kind of think maybe you're crazy for thinking it's wrong, especially in a small town!!! I also say report, but make sure you have support. And yes, I think move from there too - even though that's easier to say than do. I agree that in towns like that the authorities usually do know and are also corrupt.
You will be doing that little girl a big favor if you report it, that's a horrible way to grow up, and as someone else said, one day soon she will be one of those "nubile young girls". Having grown up in a town like that, you probably understand only too well how small town pressure can make you kind of disappear under the weight of it. It would be great if you could escape that, and great for her too if she can be spared it!!
Your brother is sicker than he knows because it's all okay in that kind of town, but it really is very far from okay. Your instincts are all spot on.
It's a big wide wonderful world, that town is just one small dark spot! Maybe you could contact Family Drug Help and they might advise you what the best measure to take would be so that you can report it, but also keep yourself out of the picture - because you need support outside of that town!
It will make you feel better too to do something to help in this situation, but I know how difficult it is when you're dealing with a "gang".
Good luck! I'll be thinking of you xxxx
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Old 02-05-2012, 09:38 PM
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Oh and as for the karma bit, well, personally nowadays the only karma I worry about is my own, and I don't get sucked in to what other people think is okay any more. If you act true to what your soul tells you, you can't go wrong! Unfortunately you can't wait for karma to clear up a really bad situation. You become complicit when you turn a blind eye!
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Old 02-05-2012, 11:08 PM
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Kiddie porn. Doing illegal drugs infront of minors-if for no other reason smoke and young lungs not a good combination. Parent is in illegal drug business. Enough said. I would report him.

You can try an anonymous tip to law enforcement, use a phone not associated with you. If it's a big operation I'd call the DEA but be prepared to give somekind of detail including decriptions of the people involved and the substance along with an address-I've had to do it before.
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Old 02-05-2012, 11:50 PM
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Thank you all for your support. For the record, I live in the city and I hate going into this enclave of rotting demons just to spend time with my brother's kids. I do not fit in, something that broke my heart for a long time, and people are just 'nice' to me because I am his sister. For years many people didn't even know I was his sister, even though I lived with the whole tribe when we were all at uni, TAFE or returning from gap year travels. Milo88, it was like living in a John Birmingham novel, only dirtier.

My brother and I grew up in an extremely permissive environment which included our parents having key parties and a lot of these people made porn on the side, including good old Mum and Dad. It wasn't unusual to wake up next to other kids we had never met before. Sex education was more than just the birds and the bees. I was dressed as a go-go girl to entertain the guests and was sexualised from a very young age. Both of us grew up thinking all of this was normal, even though the kids at school said our parents were 'rude'. We were brainwashed to disagree. So-called devil worship was thrown into the fetid mix.

We were allowed to drink alcohol from about the ages of 12 and 14 but they drew the line where pot was concerned. After our father took his own life our BU (Birthing Unit for what she was worth) went merry widow and hit the grog even worse. I went home to a drunken harridan laying on the floor with a burning log on the carpet more times than I care to remember. She used me as a decoy to attract men and when I was 16, allowed my 26 year old bf to sleep with me at night under her roof. During this time I was raped by a 32 year old man and my mother blamed me because I supposedly flaunted my sexuality. Go figure!

I have been in therapy for PTSD for years now, which resulted from this as well as the fact that my mother was more than maternally accomodating when I was very little. I have had a massive wake-up call and have realised the serious implications that still confine me in a lot of ways. My brother on the other hand seems proud of our heritage. He didn't cop the sexual assaults and beatings like I did.

OMG what a mess!

I am not justifying any of these behaviours, but I do sit here typing this with a poker face and vaccuous eyes.

I am scared for my dear little niece who is five, going on fifteen. It sickens me to have to do what I have to do and I fear for this little girl's future as far as care goes. I am not well enough to take on a child and both sets of grandparents are old and sick. I am worried about the fact that my brother leaves his daughter alone with our mother, who is a perverted monster and an ex psych nurse who can extract information out of anybody.

This has turned into a vent. I am seeing my D and A counsellor next week and together we will explore the options available, corrupt cops or not.
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BTW, he still bathes with her.
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Old 02-06-2012, 05:16 AM
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This is a terrible situation and may be dangerous for you if you threaten to report him or let him know you will.

That said, someone must be the voice of this child, the voice of young children in that town.

Please call Children's Services and report this, they can keep you anonymous, and also if there is a Crime Stoppers in your area, call them too. They will never reveal who you are.

He is sick, that's one thing, but more so he is dangerous and needs to be stopped.

My prayers go out for you too, this must just sicken you.

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I would never ever in my right mind threaten him or let him know but I know I will have to play the 'dumb fox'. That is, pretend that nothing has changed. I want to be the last person he would think of. He has a tendency to be extremely defensive and because he is breaking down fast, not that he knows it, he could get violent particularly when he is drunk. He attacked our mother with a cut throat razor when he was 16 and drunk. Our stepfather hit him over the head with a block of wood to stop him and it knocked him out cold.

We continued to 'obey' the olds, probably because we were afraid. Trauma bonding.

I am reluctant to let him into my home again, especially when I am alone, so I may need to meet him on neural territory. His emotional violence is out of control and he criticises everything about me. Sometimes iI feel so lousy after spending time with him that I feel suicidal. I hate him. Really ******* hate him. It's sad but realistically family of origin is overrated.

This makes me feel like a sociopath.
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AjnaT: What you call "venting" a lot of us here call the process of healing. You've come to a good spot, and I am inspired by your courage on behalf of your niece.

When you stand up and do the right thing by your niece by taking the suggestions above to protect her, one of the byproducts is that you will be furthering your own healing. There's something about doing for others what you wish somebody would have done for you that has a backward good effect on your own life; and everybody here would agree that you are worth it!

To add my own 2 cents (when did these keyboards quit having the "cents" sign?), by reporting this situation to the authorities, you will be putting your life at risk; and so you would need to do it anonymously or move where your brother and his lot cannot get to you (and it sounds like this would include your bio mother).
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Old 02-06-2012, 12:44 PM
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You know....AjnaT......

You don't HAVE to do anything. Considering what has happened to you in the past....you could just worry about protecting yourself and insulating yourself from any additional drama....or trauma.

I don't mean sit back and just let whatever happen.....but, report to child services and then remove yourself from any further involvement.

Just a thought. You don't have to save the world. Just yourself.
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These people think I am too dumb to do anything. I do not and cannot drive a car and it was a source of amusement to everyone. Even my brother's kids comment on it in a snide way and it is hurtful. Once, after going through the city from our mother's home, he dropped me off a very long way from my home in the pouring rain while I had a bad back, the flu and was carrying a heavy backpack. Home was three suburbs away. I learned very quickly to always have money for a taxi. I could feel the hatred and my instinct told me that I was being covertly bullied before it even happened.

My brother thinks I am his narcissistic supply (and everyone else who is inferior to him) and I will allow him to think that. For once he has my permission to treat me like ****. I can't stand up to him because I fear him, something he enjoys. I have three months to continue to play the idiot. If I can pull this off properly there will be a safe little girl, teenagers who can live like teenagers and a town whose prime source of economy is run into the ground. I suspect that a large proportion of the proceeds will go to meth and opiates, which nearly everyone is taking. The local chemist might as well have electrified razor wire surrounding it, for all of the goodies enclosed within. I have seen people lined up 100 metres up the street waiting for pharmacotherapy.

I have never done this before and if it is successful I will never have to do it again. I do not have a conscence as far as this is concerned.

For the record there is only one cop in the town and he is useless, scared more like.

I feel powerful today, knowing that what I am going to do is right and good.
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Im so sorry you are dealing with all this.
Do it, make the call if for no other reason than to save the children from living in the same/similar situations that you had to go through as a child. They deserve to be saved. You are doing the right thing. Know, trust and believe that
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Thank you everyone for your opinions and support. I will do what has to be done.
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