(((washbe2))) - I'm sorry you're going through all this. It is hard to be dealing with really happy situations when we are hurting.
As far as the words on your voicemail? When I was using, I said similar things. When I left my XABF, he said the same to me when I refused to bail him out of jail.
It's meant to tug at your heart, it's manipulation, but I know that doesn't make it hurt any less.
Big hugs and prayers,
Amy