Tiredandspent you are exactly right and that is what I told him. When he asked why is it taking me so long to get over it I reminded him that we have been together for 6 years and for 6 years he has been using. It has been 6 years in the making and is not going to be fixed over night. I also asked him to respect me and the time it may take for me to recover from the damage. It is very frustrating that I have to remind him of that. After all of the crap and he wants ME to hurry up and get over it ggggrrrr
Freedom thank you for really breaking it down! You made it easy for me to see where the effort really needs to be on his part. At the same time you made me realize where I need to be focusing so that I also don't miss it.