My daughter had the room from hell. We did not see the floor for maybe 4 years. I certainly was not going to clean it. So we just kept the door shut. She had to live there. She was a rebelous child as a teenager anyway. We had more pressing problems. We didn't see the floor till she moved out. She now has a beautful house and a husband that cleans. How lucky is that! She is one smart wonderful young women. And we get along great. Your daughter sounds like a wonderful child and I feel as you do the chore issue should be a minor thing. I also think you arer a fantastic mother. you really do have it together. hugs dax