Gracey,
Thank you so much for sharing. As I read your posts, it took me right back to my teenage years with my family (and more recently since nothing has changed between them).
I know that I would have benefited so greatly from having a safe place to honestly share my feelings and I applaud you, and cheer you, and jump up and down with glee that YOU GAVE YOUR DAUGHTER THAT OPPORTUNITY! You gave her a safe place, a port in the storm of CoDe-ness . What a true blessing. You may never know how important it was for you to show her that it is okay to open up but I know I would have clung to that like a life preserver in a great wide ocean on pain.
From the recovering adult child or a non-drinking, raging, perfectionist, alcoholic - BRAVO Mom!
Wishing you peace today,
Petunia