PLM I'm here to talk just send me direct message anytime.
It is very sad that someone we love so much hates themselves so badly and has so many demons that alcohol is their answer right now. There is nothing we can say or do to see the light. The only thing we can control is ourselves and if we children taking care of them.
I remind my self often if there is anything someone could say or do to get me to stop a behavior that was harmful to my self (mine is negative self talk). The answer is no. It's nice to have support once I decided to make some positive changes in my life. The key words here are ONCE I DECIDED..