Thank you all so much for your concern and well wishes!
I'm going to head out of town for the weekend and when I return file a RO on both of them.
What she wrote to me seems like a threat. Leave "them" alone and she's "not going to ask so nicely the second time." Did she expect me to drop the charges against him? She doesn't even realize that I couldn't retract now if I wanted to. It's in CA's hands now and they are going to prosecute whether I like it or not. But, I like it :-)
Will keep you all posted. Have a great weekend!