Sounds like a 'communication problem. Your sponsor got two totally different things mixed up I M H O.
Now, I tell my sponsees that as soon as able, even if it's only 50 cents, start doing the 7th tradition at every meeting you go to.
What I tell them about coffee is this. Anytime you go for coffee with me, I will pay for your coffee and pie for at least your first 6 months. It was done for me, and I choose to 'play it forward.' I've eve bought them a sandwich when it is obvious that they hadn't eaten either. I all these years I have never heard a sponsor be that way with a sponsee.
I figure it was done for me for over 9 months, so what the heck? why not. What I have also seen all these years is that my sponsees 'pay it forward' also.
As long as you two have 'made your amends to each other' and are moving forward then I guess things are fine.
Just sounds a bit 'warped' to me ...................... maybe your sponsor was 'over tired' also.
J M H O
Love and hugs,