Then he goes on about the 7th tradition with me in the washroom. "Part of the program requires you to contribute and that means coffee treats as well."
No, incorrect. At least I never heard this before and I've been going to AA a long time.
We learn that people aren't perfect and they screw up as much as anyone else. We learn to let things go so we don't jeopardize a relationship that's overall a good thing.