Originally Posted by
FindingJoy 
He was still extremely selfish, a liar about everything from what he ate to whether I woke him up or not. Bottom line no freakin difference without the booze or pills. PLEASE.
He's your ex for a reason.
With or without alcohol and booze he's got issues. Sobriety does not turn people into the hopeful fantasy of of what we need or want in a relationship.
" I will not be in a relationship with a liar" is a sound boundary. It does not attempt to control his behavior. Rather, it protects you.
10 Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up their Lives by Laura Schlessinger is a gem of a book that's been around for a long time. You can pick up a used copy dirt cheap at Amazon.