Originally Posted by
lillamy 
I swear, detaching from an alcoholic husband was a breeze compared to detaching from the children's emotional reactions... but it's the same process...
Wow. This is so dead on for how I am feeling lately. I have been close to losing my mind (I feel like) dealing with anger and outright defiance and nasty ness from D6 toward me and D3 and D3 has her own issues as well. I feel like I don't get any respite from their behavior and have been viewing it as poor me and poor them. Instead, I need to look at it as you describe.
Detaching from their father was so much easier than separating myself from their emotions....