OK, I see what you're saying..BUT...
When you haven't been in a relationship that long, and there may be behavior on both sides that the other is not comfortable with..isn't it normal and not codependent, to just say "hey this bothers me" and see if you can work it out?
Originally Posted by
lillamy 
I'm seeing red flags here, of the same kind DeVon is talking about.
If he says "I want to spend more time with these people and go to the bar" and you're wanting to work out a "compromise" -- you are trying to control him. You're not listening to his words OR actions. You want him to do what you want him to do, so that you can feel better.
But you need to feel better on your own. It's not his job to adjust his life so that you feel better. And he's telling you by his actions that you are not the priority you want to be in his life. Listen to him.