Yeah..I think it's only been in this last week that I'm realizing how much being with someone who puts so much emphasis on recreational drinking is triggering me.
Thing is, he knows about my ex and my history. He knows I gave my ex an ultimatum, the bar or me, and my ex chose the bar.
It's astounding to me, tho, how much even people I know in their THIRTIES go to the bar. It seems like there's been this huge shift onto bar-going as the main source of recreational activity for anyone under 40 who's not in AA or something. It's kind of depressing.
Originally Posted by
EnglishGarden 
Personally I would not trust any man over the age of 22 (as in: graduated from college partying) who gets drunk on weekends (you said he doesn't HAVE to, so I assume that means he does when he wants to) and does his socializing in bars.
As a recovering codependent, I could never be with someone for whom a bar is recreational therapy. I have experienced too much pain and deception from adult men who like to drink.
Hoping you stay safe.