Hey Zoso:
Sorry that you're in pain, but you've definitely come to the right place.
You mentioned you are working on detachment with love...so am I. You are not alone. Whether it be a boyfriend, spouse, parent, adult/teenage child...it doesn't matter, chemical/alcohol addictions play out all the same.
I remember when I first came here, I was in such a dark place. I sat in my dark place for over a year, trying to deal with it all. This forum is what helped me to start climbing out, whenever I would read stories similar to mine. And you WILL hear a lot of that, with a lot of good support to go along with it.
Sometimes, I couldn't even post, because I was afraid that if I'd post, I'd feel the pain again. However, I am learing that sharing is freeing.
I read and re-read a lot of the stickies up on the top. I still go back and read them when I'm having a particular problem that I stumble back into.
Congratulations for taking your first step...it's a journey to wellness,
Huggs,
Hope