I also can't remember a single time I reached out to him when I felt he was pulling away that I ended up feeling good. In fact it always made me feel worse because I would then start ruminating over why his voice was flat, why he didn't sound excited to hear from me, why wasn't he the one to contact me and make me feel better? and on and on the cycle went. I agree with wantobehealthy in that a relationship worth being part of DOESN'T feel like this.