JT now its my turn. You were looking in my windows way back when.
My sponsor told me to get out of the middle, no matter what it took. So whenever someone tried to put me in the middle, I'd go to the store for a loaf of bread even if I didn't need one.
It took a while but I manged to get out of the triangle AND end up with a freezer full of bread.
Now I make a really good bread pudding.
I learned to take the action needed, to do what was in my best interest.
Today I don't translate for anyone.
Good luck gracey!