(((Whisp)))- Welcome to SR!!
(((Loving))) - I have to agree with ((CynicalOne)) - I allowed a lot of bad stuff to happen in my relationships, heck I practically ASKED for them! It took me a lot of work on myself and reading here before I was able to not only realize I had a big part in the dysfunction but that I had to forgive myself. I know there are truly innocent people who get sucked in by addiction/alcoholism, and I was innocent in the beginning, but I stayed around for far too long.
Hugs and prayers,
Amy