Welcome to SR. This is a great place for support to help you cope with the complexities and confusion of addiction in the family. It is always particularly difficult when there are children involved.
Personally I tried just about anything and everything to get my AS to realize that his addiction was a problem. We tried intervention, in patient, out patient, begging, pleading, threatening, ultimatums, you name it. I finally had to admit that MY life had become unmanageable as I tried desperately to control his life.
I hope you stick around. Read. Post. Learn. But most importantly know that you are not alone in facing this cunning and baffling disease.
Gentle hugs
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