inthelight: My ex AB only calls me when he is in some kind of distress - i.e. fight with boss, cut his hand - had to go to the hospital for stitches, lonely, etc. Does your ex do this to you? I'm tired of being important only when he has needs. I've told him that and I no longer feel guilty about it.
Take care of yourself - there is no need to feel guilty about it - this is his doing.