Hey jamesgirl, congratulations on your 20 days! i am at 17 days today and, like you say, the urges that were non-existent a week ago are now around a lot. thankfully, I have a job that I would lose if any hint of alcohol was suspected and i am the only drinker (hopefully EX-DRINKER) in my house. Nevertheless, the urges on the way home are there. I have found that just lurking and reading of others' trials and tribulations on this site has been most helpful to me - very inspirational.
The fact that so many of us share common habits, urges, problems and small moments of redemption help me to realize that my problem is not unique to me and that it can be solved. Thanks to all whose own stories and advice have gotten me this far in my RECOVERY - a great word right there.
Jamesgirl, hang tough!!!