No thoughts or experience to offer but I just wanted to say that you sound great and I'd be willing to bet that you'll find what your looking for.
There was an article about co-dependency here that might interest you. Again, I have no experience here - I'm still sorting myself out enough to decide what I want to do - but I think it might be helpful to someone coming from this kind of background and looking at trying to find a healthy relationship.
Hmmm...I have no idea how to add a url link and looks like the little button didn't work so I'm going to just paste it.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ependency.html
Lol....just pasting is all you do!