Jill, welcome to you, so glad you are here.
Since you grew up with an alcoholic, please check out the ACOA forum, especially the stickies at the top.
Also there is and ACOA website, this is an organization that grew out of ala-teens who grew up and needed a place where they fit because al-anon di not do it for them.
I am currently reading their handbook, "The Big red Book" and have found many of the things they cover really apply to me as I, like you grew up in an alcoholic home.
Please stay in touch, you are now part of our family, we want to know how you are doing, if you just want to, vent, or talk, need a hug or some propping up, you can count on me.
Best of luck,
Bill